Alpha or Omega?
(An excerpt from the upcoming book De-mystifying Mysticism )
Are you a leader, a lieutenant, a follower, or a runt? Let's take a look for a moment at what pack mentality is.
Background of Pack Mentality
Pack mentality is that often subconscious impulsive drive to fit in with people around us. Whether that be with family, friends, coworkers, or any other group.
As social pack animals, humans have evolved quite rapidly. Beneath our sophisticated mentality, is an impulsive, subconscious drive to fit in with any group. This drive comes from the part of our brain called the reptilian brain (The R-complex). This area of the brain is considered to control basic drives and instincts, basic needs and avoidances. At the core one of our greatest fears to overcome is a fear of death. What does that mean in regards to pack mentality? If you are not accepted in a pack, you will have to fend for yourself, and this may very well mean death. To avoid death, we do everything we can to fit into a pack, even if all we get are scraps.
If you were in a pack, and the apparent Alpha considered you to be the Omega, you would be subordinated to a position closer to death.
As pack animals, we have to make certain that we survive. In a pack that means being the Alpha, as the Beta making friends with or challenging the Alpha, as a follower being obedient and not becoming the Omega, and as the Omega hoping there's enough leftovers, that you don't get kicked out, and that you don't get beat too bad.
The issue with that mentality is that our reactions aren't based in current situations. Most of us logically know we won't starve or be left in the cold. Yet, we find ourselves reacting the same way a pack animal would.
Fit in with the pack at all costs, or risk death by being left to fend for yourself.
4 Pack Mentalities
Some people have an innate ability to make decisions, take control of situations, in other words, these people are natural born leaders or Alpha's. Others are always last picked for a team or group, suffer from low self-esteem, in other words the runt of the litter or Omega's. There is another group that is okay taking control if they have to, making decisions if nobody else will. These are the Beta's.
Established dominance, ability to make decisions and take control, doesn't have to prove themselves, these are all qualities of the Alpha Mentality. An Alpha simply IS dominant. Only when they're challenged do they need to prove themselves. An example of Alpha Mentality would be Tony Robbins, naturally considered to be strong and confident. Strong posture, body language and demeanor are subconscious signs of an alpha.
The Beta or Sub Alpha
The Beta is the runner up, the lieutenant if you will. Not quite the top dog, but still strong and confident. The Beta will either challenge or befriend the Alpha to establish their position. This person doesn't mind making decisions if no Alpha is present, but will likely concede when the Alpha becomes apparent.
This is the rest of the herd or group, the ones who follow what the Alpha and Beta dictate. Their only serious concern is not becoming the bottom rung. Alpha says jump, they say how high.
Here we have the runt, black sheep, or last one picked. The Omega eats after everyone else does. No matter how great a voice they have, typically considered weaker and less than the rest of the pack. Always the one picked on, never respected. In the pack, this is the one always closest to the brink of being kicked out or death.
Establishing YOUR Mentality
Your mentality can be a conscious decision. Because we recognize our thoughts create our reality, you have the power to change your mentality by overcoming that fear of death, the fear of leaving the pack, facing it head on and finding your mettle, your strength.
Alpha In Me
So how would one establish a logical, conscious awareness of the Alpha within? Recognize where your reactions are coming from. Are you trying to fit in with the pack because you fear being kicked out and ultimately risk death? Once you become consciously aware of the root fear beneath your reactions, you can consciously make a choice. Do you want to continue letting fear of being kicked out or not accepted (ie. fear of death), control your reactions, or do you want to discover the strength, confidence, and alpha mentality within?
Becoming The Lion
When you find yourself in a group situation like that, imagine yourself as a lion, roaring and seeing who's left. Be who you are, wholly, fully, and confidently. Don't allow the fear of leaving a particular pack control who you are. The ones who run scared couldn't handle you anyway. Those who are left standing and don't run away scared, are the ones you want to have around anyway. These are the ones who can handle you as you are. This makes the selection process so much easier, choosing friends based on who you are, not who they appear to be. You are the Alpha, you just have to find your pack, the group that resonates with your truth. Find that part of you that IS confident. Be who you are. The more you embrace your own inner strengths, the more those are recognized by those around you. A true Alpha doesn't have anything to prove, they simply ARE stronger and more confident within, and it shows on the outside.
We all desire to be loved and respected. In order for anyone to see this within us, we have to show it to them. How do we do that? We have to first discover those qualities within us that we want the world to see.
I AM ALPHA, HEAR ME ROAR!
David Caren & Heather Rodriguez
Las Vegas, NV
July 1, 2011
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